Friday, 2 May 2014

Are You A Romantic Or A Realist?

My friend Susan was dating this HOT guy she met at a friends engagement party...and for a few months they were like white on Rice (the long grain Indian basmati type...hehehe) . She fell in LOVE with his charming, kind and somewhat unpretentious disposition.

There were so many occasions that he could have gotten lucky with her (imagine a series of HOT N' WILD steamy make out) but he always stopped at second base (nothing more than a little KISSING and a hand job...if you know what I mean).  Lol.

Now, a man rejecting a woman for SEX is pretty much like a kick in her GENITALS. So for several months she wondered if he really liked her as much as she found him ATTRACTIVE.

And when she had enough of wondering and waiting for him to put his SHAFT where his hands had been , she HINTED to him that she would like to spend some quality time with him somewhere private and romantic away from their usual RENDEVOUS.

That was when he dropped the BOMB . They had some BOUNDARIES...he was weary of.

She found out she was DATING a man whose marriage was already PRE-ARRANGED to his childhood friend abroad, who was planning to return home in 2 months. I can imagine people applauding him for showing a bit of RESTRAINT and applying some caution. But isn't half cheating, CHEATING anyway? Hahahah. Well Susan, is crazy in love with him and very confused about whether she should just stay...until his fiancee comes back or whether to just walk away.

Now being an ex-romantic turned realist, who still gets a little confused sometimes...I know I love MIRACLES and HAPPY ENDINGS... but I've experienced way too much to allow my own HEART rule my HEAD...so of course, I told her to SLAM the door in his misleading face, TOSS the key in the trash and walk away like a QUEEN-BITCH would. Hehehe. 

Still, there are two clear STANDS on this issue... the ROMANTIC who will stay, and the REALIST who will walk away.

Which one are you? Let's look at both views from two registered users on ALEX'S BLOG COMMUNITY.


#1) THE REALIST: BARBIE....

"A RELATIONSHIP is a dead end one if there are major incompatibilities, for instance; if one partner wants kids and the other doesn't, if one partner does not intend to marry the other, if it's abusive or if long term personal goals clash.

Most women are SMART enough to be able to spot the red flags of a dead end relationship right away. (But, they simply chose to ignore them and allow themselves to get emotionally involved on a deeper level).

When you stay in a dead end relationship, you are actually in DENIAL. There is a certain part of you which believes that maybe one day, eventually, your lover will REALISE the value of your relationship. However, the reality is... he has told SUSAN that their relationship is limited because he will eventually marry someone else. I cannot understand why anyone would want to stick around for that. FACE the pain and the HURT sooner, rather than later. Trust me, any later, your pain and disappointment will be worse.

I'm very PRACTICAL in my approach to relationships. I've been hurt too many times in the past so I've learnt to defend my own heart first. I know that people say that it's the journey that counts and not the destination... but if I cannot see a GOAL in sight, I am simply not staying for the RIDE."


#2) THE ROMANTIC: TJ....

"I am a true blue ROMANTIC guy who will not settle until I feel butterflies in my stomach or see UNICORNS swimming in glitters under the clear blue sky, when I am with someone. Some people believe in reaching the destination while others choose to love the journey instead.

I choose the JOURNEY because every step taken is a memory made and an experience enjoyed. And I Love the THRILL.

Would you not want to have few MORE months with him rather than not to have any time with him at all? Sure you will CRY your heart out and feel STABBED over and over again but time is a guarantee that all wounds will heal.

You will only know the meaning of LOVE after experiencing the pain.

But be sure to know when to let go and never, ever be The Other Woman." 

So what do you think about Barbie and Tj's views?....Or better still what would you do if you were in Susan's shoes....Are you the ROMANTIC or the REALIST? Feel free to share your thoughts...And don't forget to become a REGISTERED USER and get interactive on our forum at ALEX'S BLOG COMMUNITY (on the right wing of this blog).

Have A Fantastic Friday Lovelies! Kisses And More Kisses!

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