Wednesday, 2 April 2014

We Are All Blogging....But Not All Of Us Are Competing!

I have to start this post laughing because I can almost anticipate what the general reaction would be after reading what I have to share.

It never fails to amaze me how FICKLE minded We Africans are, most especially my beloved NIGERIANS. First of all, the SMART ones think only them have 'monopoly' to ideas, the LAZY ones don't care that much (hey, let's just copy and paste) and the COMPETITIVE ones...oh well, they don't want competition really. Nothing that looks or smells like them. Hahaha.

I'm sure you are wondering what I'm getting off at. Well, its the IDEOLOGY that people with similar business, ideas or creative endeavours can't get together, network or become fast friends...because they are supposed to see each other as COMPETITION. Hian! Okay, let me explain... Ever seen a Hair Saloon spring up in a neighbourhood and enjoy the dividends of being the only Hair-Service Provider in that AREA until another one births beside it...and stiff HATRED/RIVALRY posing as mere competition begins. Now rather than them coming together to build a solid relationship (I mean I can picture an over-crowded saloon with customers waiting to be tended to, that could easily be sent over to the next saloon...No! No... God forbid, right?)

This is where my Igbo brothers differ biko....you can never go to ALABA or ONITSHA and ask an igbo trader for something and he tells you he doesn't have it...Eh! How? (Abeg wait, make I go my brother shop) which is pretty much his supposed 'competitions' store...but who cares, he's a BUSINESS-MAN and he knows ground 'strategy' better than any branding GURU can whisk-up. Emeka na him brother, even if the-said Emeka is 'rumoured' to be SCREWING Nneka his kindagarten crush. He will sell Emeka's product with a bit of incentive on top but #whadeck...its a win-win for all parties involved. Lol.

I also remember like 6 or 7 years back, I would invite a few BUDDING actresses like myself at the time, to audition for the same roles I myself was auditioning for. My theory then was simple. Only one person gets the part. If its them, I was instrumental to their success. If it was me, then I'm really 'that good or just that LUCKY'... It was no big deal. But the funny thing was that neither of them ever invited me to any of their auditions. Strange, right? What happened to returning good favours? Hahaha. The truth is that human beings brag about competition when in actual fact, they dread having anything that upsets their position in the scheme of affairs. Let them run a competitive RACE, just as long as they get a good head start and beat that obviously not so-competent competition of theirs. Biko, Who is fooling who?

Another example will be the good advice my father gave me...Think about this, so many times you will watch a celebrity day-time talk show host be a 'featured' GUEST on another celebrity talk show. I mean Ellen Degeneres doesn't see what's wrong with inviting Oprah Winfrey, Queen Latifah or Steve Harvey over to her show to talk about their own shows. I mean the MATHS is pretty simple...I can bring you and your fan base over to mine and you can feel free to return the favour. Hahahah. It is sorta with that same theory, I have the blog BANNER of my very talented friend and colleague, popular actor Kalu Ikeagwu who's blogspot is filled with amazing personal stories and his writing genius is simply undisputed. And I have no grouse letting my own readers know about his blog (Here) or any other blog/brands I find truly amazing.

It is true that my blog in itself is rather young (considering Its only two months plus)...and when I started, I pretty much remember reaching out to a few Famed Nigerian Bloggers. I did the oyinbo thing...Say 'hello first to my blog neighbours'...(hahaha)...'The yoruba thing..."Greet my elders in the blogging business" ...(Yes ke) and the obviously now confirmed dumb move... I got their emails and sent each one of them a personalised private email praising them for their own work and telling them about my new personal blog, and how I designed it myself bla bla bla... even asking them what they thought about it since I honestly consider myself a rookie (blogging-wise). Was I surprised that not a single one of the five I sent replied my email or even acknowledged receipt? I mean..."Hello Alex, Good to know. Take care...Bye"...Hahahah...(Yes, non-commital, a little pretentious but it would have been courteous, mature and a little respectful) just saying.

I didn't ask them to advertise my blog or share my address with their readers (not that it would be a big deal or a bad idea) neither did i ask for free links which most foreign bloggers do for each other without batting an eye. Wait! There was a rather sinister incidence that forced me to get an International copyright license and a disclosure policy I now have at the bottom of my blog...What was it? You know my usual exclusive friday drill ...Yes the Celebrity Guest Post which fortunately my Friend and Actress Ashionye Michelle-Raccah was my Guest Author for that day...and ofcourse, her write-up went viral with numerous bloggers lifting what was supposed to be an exclusive post and turning it to 'breaking news' whilst taking CREDIT for it. Now would I have minded if other bloggers wanted to share my posts with their readers?...No, I wouldn't have, if only they had done the proper thing by LINKING to my post or giving my blog its due credit. (Talk about the copy and paste group aka blogger thiefs) and while a few of my loyal readers sent me emails to alert me of the pilfery...none of the bloggers approved any of their comments that mentioned my blog as the original site that housed the post.LMAO.

So for the group I sent emails...I'm even a little more confused. Wait! Did my email get lost in TRANSIT or did PHCN strike and stop it from delivering or did the fuel crisis affect their response from getting to me? Hahahah...Do you get it now?

How can you be so afraid to respond to a 'warm friendly' email because you consider the other person competition? I mean that's the only logical explanation for the rather obvious group SILENCE...Hang on! How am I even competition? I'm just an Actress who simply likes to pen her own random thoughts... Its not like I blog about celebrity gossip or fashion/lifestyle tips and any of the other things I really couldn't be bothered about. So what's the biggie? Is it the fact that I designed the blog all by MYSELF using my mobile phones and it looks better than the supposed hundreds of thousands they may have paid their web designers for. (Not trying to be arrogant) but hold up, don't be surprised I keep announcing i designed my blog myself....you would do the same if you've never had knowledge of java scripts, templates, widgets and all the other crazy things I tortured myself to figure out whilst others where snoring...So that I'm proud of my achievement, knowing the sleepless nights and migraines I had to endure to see this to fruition should not annoy or IRRITATE anyone. Perhaps I couldn't even afford a good web designer. Hahahah.

I don't know how many people I've encouraged to start a blog even moreso, showed them a few TIPS using their phones if they please. I don't feel intimidated or bothered if the blog community grows. I mean...we may all be doing similar things but in our own unique way. I blog about my thoughts and I do all my blog pieces through my BLACKBERRY phone...That's my USP (Unique Selling Point) Shikena! So, I'm looking forward to the day Whizkid and Davido will collaborate or Ruggedman and Modenine will surprise us...I will love to hear a dope song by these sexy Divas Tiwa Savage and Sheyi-Shay....and who says Don-Jazzy can't still hook up some fierce beat for D-banj. Maybe Linda Ikeji will make reference to first seeing a post on Bella Naija or Miss Petite Nigeria and other terrestrial media than she gives foreign credit. Perhaps an APC Governor will openly praise a PDP Governor for a job well done. Maybe Kannywood would consider themselves a major part of Nollywood and ANTP will consolidate with AGN to represent Screen Actors as they should. Lol. I long for the day that healthy 'competition' inspires PROGRESSIVE change instead of cheap rivalry.

The truth is, our MIND-SET are the reasons why our country is still developing. The unnecessary HATRED and disapproval we have for others just because their opinions or style is different from ours or we wished they aren't as good or better than us. And while I believe people reserve the right to reply or not to reply their emails. I can bet my left breast that if I left gossip hints or a supposed contact for advertorial. I would have gotten a reply ASAP. So whatever their true reasons for ignoring my email (that one is for their pocket). My blog is growing by the minute because of AMAZING people who genuinely appreciate the value I bring...so anyone who isn't happy should feel free to drink Bar-Beach Water. Hahahah. In the end, We all may be blogging but not all of us are competing.

Have A Wonderful Wednesday Lovelies! Kisses!

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