Wednesday, 26 March 2014

Who Are You, Biko?

Over the weekend, someone called my mobile phone and my sister answered the call...A man at the other end said he wanted to speak with me... "Is this Alex? I want to talk to Alex" (Hian, no hello...nothing). Just an obnoxious man with a superiority complex. So my sister replies him "No, this is not Alex. "Who are you? She's not here, Would you like to leave a message" then he replied "Tell her Samson (not real name) called" and again seeing that his number wasn't saved on my phone, she asked "Samson from where?" Of course he got offended and dropped the call. Later I received an angry message from him, he's supposedly a top shot politician in one of the biggest political parties here...but neither I nor my sister knew who the heck he was. What did he want? Now that's another matter altogether.

Its very strange how people find it difficult to introduce themselves simply because they believe they are either famous, successful or both... and then tend to assume that everyone should know who they are. I mean, I know my former acting coach RMD will always introduce himself "Hi, my name is Richard Eyimofe Damijo. How are you?" And you can best believe that a lot of the children born in the very late 90's will not know who he is. Oh wait, my own Father does the same thing "Hello, My name is Tony Okoroji" simple and straight (Abeg forget the Chief or Barrister-Architect-Mrs...Lol). And that's a man who has dedicated more than 30 years of his life to the Nigerian Creative Industry in different capacities...No Attitude, Nothing....just plain humility. Now, can I pretend that there aren't people who never knew he was a famous musician, songwriter and producer (move aside Don Jazzy..hehehe..) in the late 70s to early 80s or those who never heard his songs (and oh...I said musician...as in, sing and plays instruments...not what our modern day overtly hyped artistes who don't even know a single musical note or what key they sing on). Still at his age and level of his career achievements...knows how important it is to introduce himself always, no matter where.

I mean...you can't just assume everybody knows who you are simply because GOOGLE has articles on you, you grace the cover of FASHION magazines, you are junk tabloid's favourite subject, you shake your BUTT on TV, Was in a REALITY show, you are a celebrity BLOGGER, you have over 200,000 plus followers on twitter, you are VERIFIED, perhaps you ONCE modeled, you are a SINGER, philanthropist or your family is on FORBES rich list...(Ehen, how does that change the prize of fish in the market?). Do you know how many people honestly couldn't be bothered? You'll be shocked... Hold on...MICHAEL JACKSON will probably be one of the most famous people to ever exist...and I'm sure some people (and not in any remote village) who probably have never heard of him. I know my 3 year old son Ray hasn't....hahaha (its not a crime....oh well, it is. Hahahah...I will still need to get him to listen to BAD, HUMAN NATURE and his entire greatest hits...but err...you get the point, right?)

So, carrying yourself like 'planet' EARTH was named after you or you are the one funding the AIR in which the world breathes... is rather comical. I mean, I don't get angry that out of the 9 quality soap operas I've featured in, on television or the movies I've done... Or TV programmes or events I've hosted...some people still don't recognise me or even yet, some journalists will pretend my claim to fame is just being the daughter of a famous celebrity. Hahahah...but how can I be mad if they don't watch TV? Or care that its my voice they hear on radio...or that I wrote that film they absolutely love. Lol. Really, WHO AM I? With thousands of achievers springing up everyday in a population of over 150 million citizens. Its impossible to expect the entire country to know who you are...talk less of the world. Even some people don't know who the governor of their own state is...So why do we get so invested in our public presence or personas that we lose our HUMILITY and ETIQUETTE. I've seen quite a lot of my colleagues a.k.a celebrities walk in somewhere and go 'bonkers' that someone didn't throw themselves on the floor and lick the ground on which they walk, or that the person either didn't recognise them, wanted some information on them or didn't give them the 'star' treatment they expected.

Let me break it down...People by HABIT tend to know a lot about things and people they have interest in. If someone generally loves politics, sports, movies or music, they will know all about the latest sports news, music and movies stars or subjects related to them. If they are picky in terms of genres, then their knowledge and interest will be limited to just that. And if you are like me, who's not into a few things like SOCCER...you may never have a clue whatsoever about it. I remember a few years back like 5 or 6 years ago, I was at an "event after-party" and some guy walked up to me and said his boss sent him to call me up. Huh? "Who is your boss?" I asked..."Victor Ikpeba..." he replied...then I asked "Who is that?" The guy stared at me, mega STUNNED... Okay, the name played around in my mind. I knew it may be someone sorta familiar. But the truth is, I don't watch football, I don't know him and I couldn't care less if he was David Beckham's twin brother. The fact that he felt too 'arrogant' to walk up to me himself and thought he needed to send his PA to flash his name in my face...was good enough reason for me to ignore the bombaclad...And I did. Hahahah...(But seriously you sef check am).

Abeg! What stops you from walking in somewhere or calling someone up and politely introducing yourself "Hello, My name is Omotola Jalade Ekeinde, I'm an Actress. Nice to meet you" or "Hi, My name is Whizkid. I'm a Singer and I would love to chat with you" (I'm just saying). Do you wanna bet me that we will find millions in this country who've never heard of them or don't know who they are. I mean take Genevieve Nnaji to mushin and watch area boys and market women treat her with ignominy while they are famzing Ireti Osayemi or Funke Akindele...hehehe... or try take Obesere to my village in Ogada, Atta in Imo state and figure out if they've ever heard of him talk less of his songs. We seem to get carried away by the hype surrounding us that we forget that there's someone just as important, maybe more important or not so important, who still doesn't know we exist. We fawn over the Will Smith's, Brad Pitt's, Nicole Kidman's, Kanye West's, Becham's, Ronaldo's, Beyonce's, Barrack Obama's of this world...BUT check am na, in a WORLD filled with hundreds of billions of people, some people still don't know who they are...so Pleaseee....WHO ARE YOU? Keep it modest, keep it straight and oh, in the words of rapper, Olamide..."First of all....INTRODUCTION...please". Hehehe...

Have A Wonderful Wednesday Lovelies! Kisses!

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